how to buy with confidence...? PayPal?

............I have bought from ppl that have just jumped on this board to ppl that have lots of posts........not really any problems.......ask alot of questions till ur satisfied, if ur not pass on the item, u can always reach out to another member or a moderator for help........I would also like to add that if during 3 or 4 p/ms that the seller/buyer does not include his/her name, screen or real, i abort the deal, ofcourse ive been cursed out for that, but if i dont have a good feeling about them, no deal........kim......