Don't know how to ask/don't know what I want.

Let me ask this. How tight are you making it to go up? I found that if I just bring it to a stop with very little pressure it will still jack it up. Many of us want to torque it really tight and then when we want to go down it is like a stuck bolt. If I am going to be under it (which we should not do without a jack stand) I then give it a good tightening. Just my thoughts