Seriously at my wits end

I am wondering, have you verified that the leak is actually from the pan/gasket? I hate to see you chase a leak that may be from somewhere else. Its a common problem for the shifter seal to leak and run down to the top of the pan then drip from a couple of different places making it appear to be the pan/gasket? I would make sure that the seal area is washed out along with the pan/gasket. Then start the car and with a mirror watch to see if the shafter seal may be leaking. also check at the speedometer gear o-ring and rear yoke seal and dipstick tube seal. You may have to drive around the block then look again. Dont go to far at one time because once it starts to leak it will run to other areas and be hard to figure out where its coming from. It can be aggrevating but once you find the actual leak it should be curable!
Be patient but make sure you are chasing the real problem.
Best of Luck
Rod
The transmission is rebuilt.I looked everywhere on the transmission for leaks with the black light and very positive it's the pan.This is the dipstick tube I have on it right now and it is very sealed http://www.summitracing.com/parts/aaf-all69120/overview/ (I bought that one because it's nearly impossible to find an original tube and everyone that has one wants an arm and leg for one)I checked at yoke seal ,even took off the driveshaft and no leaks there.I dont see any cracks on the housing and the surface were the pan meets is smooth,straight with no gouges.I may just take the advice of using RTV made for transmissions and a paper gasket and just seal the living hell out of it.