which flexplate

I believe you're confusing the flexplate-to-crank bolt pattern to the 2 different balancer/damper bolt patterns for pulleys. Mopar V-8 cranks all have the same 6 bolt crank-to-flexplate pattern out back. Some high dollar aftermarket units & Hemis have an 8 bolt pattern. But you are correct about the different converter patterns and bolt sizes.

Check my link to the mancini flex plates. They offer them in symmetrical and offset, with 10" or 11" torque converter mounting...