Starter sticking

The way I have this setup is that the keyed hot supplying the box with power goes to a ballast prong (not the resisted side) and jumps to the box power wire while the other one (ign run), goes to the opposing ballast prong so that it is resisted, it runs to coil +. IOW 1 keyed hot goes to a ballast prong, that prong jumps to box power, opposing prong has coil run. My starter relay seems to have less wires than those that have a factory electronic harness, there are 2 or 3 prongs (to the best of my memory) that have no wire running to them on my relay, yet the relay plug has spots for those wires.