Believe me, the bolts were never gone go in.... I tried every possible position and even tried flipping flex plates over, just for ***** and giggles. The bolt pattern was an 1/8 inch too big. I don't understand how that can happen but it did. Read my first post: I had 3 flex plates and 3 converters and they all bolt up in every combination, except for if I tried to bolt anything up to the new converter. Either way, it can never hurt to have a second opinion, or in this case, a second converter.
I'm glad to hear that it's normal to have weights and a neutral balanced converter, I just thought weights were used on the ones with external balancing, that's why I asked the more experienced folks here. But the bolt holes were just plain wrong. I had all the parts out and on my workbench in plain site so it's not like I was laying under the car and could get a good look.
Thanks again for the input.