what dia t bars should I buy? & what shocks should I get?

I'll spend however much it takes to get to my desired comfort level. its not any fun to drive right now
1- define desired comfort level

2- what's the current status of the front end/rest of suspension? has anything been altered or rebuilt?

3- do you have a swaybar?

4- current wheel and tire package?

you can easily attain something that rides very similar to a modern sport coupe-- firm but not overbearing. or you can have something that handles like it's on rails but rides a little rough and can shake your fillings loose. or you can have something in the middle of either. comfort is a very subjective topic.