neutral safety switch problem

I am having problems with my car starting in gear and don't seem to know how to figure it out. The car has a toggle switch to engage the starter, also the ignition is on a toggle switch, the car has the statrer relay, a new Neutral safety switch on the trasmission(3pins). The car has original on the column.I installed a scs Cheetah shifter. I ran one wire from the center pin on the neutral safety switch to the starter relay ground. Is this correct? My next question is do I need power to the out side pins or do I splice into the slenoid wire to thd starter? Or do I need to do something else? I'm am idiot when it comes to wining.Any help would appreciated.:banghead: