Air Shocks Really Helped

"Cotter pins"?????...I think you're loosening the strut rods, not the torsion bars. Torsion bars dont have cotter pins.

That's what I was thinking too..

Tighten those nuts back up. The bolts you want to undo a half turn at a time, are the bolts you will see if you look inside the under side of your lower control arms. One bolt on each side, pointing down.