Pulling my hair out!!!

I might have missed this, but are you sure you are not 180 degrees out? You did drop your distributor in on the compression stroke didn't you. Also, if you did all you have to do is make sure that your #1 plug is were your rotor is at and go with the firing order from there. It doesn't neccissarily have to point at the #1 plug/cylinder as long as your firing order is correct on your cap.