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I lost my dad 5 years ago. It was hard at first. You keep beating yourself up thinking "I should have done this or that or told them that I loved them more..." They know that. Just look back at what you did do, and be happy for that and the time you did have together. You can beat yourself up with greif, it will only lead down a path of depression. Look at the good times and learn to move on, that's what she would want you to do. Remember all of the things that they taught you about life and use them as best as you can.

You have to realize that part of living is dyeing. You can't avoid it, eventually everyone has to die. One of my favorite sayings is, "Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out of it alive..."

My youngest son just graduated grade school. One of his teachers died in a drowning accident while boating with other teachers from the school one week after graduation (he was 35 and just had a baby girl with his wife of three years). His father came up to me at the wake and said, "I'm not supposed to bury my kids. They are supposed to bury me." Please take some comfort that at least this happened in the proper order for you.

All life cannot stop because of one death. We have to deal with it and move on. If you have some weak moments, turn to your family and friends for help, that is what they are there for.

I hope some of this can help you deal with it. It is tough and not easy to deal with at first. But as time goes by, it gets better. The hardest thing is realizing that they are no longer there for us to rely on anymore and now we have to pick up the slack and be more independant (I hate that part, I don't want to grow up).

Our thoughts are with you, good luck. If you need any support you have friends at FABO.