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Yesterday was National Coming Out Day. So I'm a day late. I'm a gay man.

Some of you who don't understand or approve will never change your minds, and I expect that. The reason I am posting this is because still today, young people are taking their own lives or being deserted by their own flesh and blood, just because they are different, and because their remains so much ignorance and misunderstanding. Maybe one person reading this will recognize that someone they love is also one of the different ones and will open their mind and heart to what that person is going through, and let them know they are loved regardless.

My parents are deeply religious. Looking back on my childhood, from very early on, they could see I was different. The life I have lived was not what a parent dreams for their child, and that was difficult for them. Fortunately for me, they wanted to understand, and educated themselves including going to meetings of PFLAG (Parents and friends of Lesbians and Gays.)

Sex is what two consenting adults do behind closed doors. Being gay is far less about sex and more about who you love. Every person deserves to share their life with someone they love. Someone to go to the drugstore for you when you're sick. Someone to pick you up from the airport. Someone to share a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie with. Someone who cares.

I don't want to start a big ruckus on here, as I said there are some who will never accept this. At the same time, I don't see why I should have to hide something which I'm not ashamed of. Thanks for listening.
 
My opinion of you will never change. You have been a great friend and have always been there whan I needed to vent. And I thank you for that.
 
What you do or who you like has nothing to do with me or affects me in any way at all. Could care less, don't take that in a bad way. Just does not mater to me at all. What does mater is your a good guy and it has been fun BSin with you. I wuld have a beer with you any day.

It takes guts to come out. Good on you.
 
Glad to see you are working through this.. It is a issue that needs to be dealt with, as you said too many have been beaten down, killed or committed suicide all because others had a problem with it.:thumrigh:
 
Well Goldfish65, You have been a great friend here and I know a few Gay people (mostly ladies) and I don't judge there way to live there life.
I wish you peace and a happy life my friend :cheers: I don't even try and understand it, I liv my life the way I am, With a great lady.
Life is to short to be something you are not, You can be your best just by being your self :glasses7:.
Wow!! I did not see this coming and and I am glad you are here enjoying this Mopar sickness we all have :cheers:
 
Personally, it is much more important that you like the right kind of cars. And you have that down. Now that I think about it, maybe I should not get upset if someone gets exited about a car I could never be attracted to. No, sorry, I guess I am a Mopar bigot.
 
Our friendship started out a bit on the rough side and for that I will again apologize. But your preferences are your preferences, does not change who you are. My daughter, well step daughter, is a lesbian. Does not change my love for her one bit. She is an outstanding, fine young lady.
 
Wow. That couldn't have been easy. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have had the courage to do that. It makes no difference to me your sexual preference, religion, political views, skin color, etc... Hell, you could even drive a Chevy! What matters is who you really are inside. Judging by your post, I'd have to say there's a good, strong person inside. That probably comes from the teachings of parents like yours. It was difficult for them, but they see past the stereotypes and accept and learn. As we have seen with teen suicides, not all parents are that way. Kids shouldn't have to be alone, they aren't prepared for that trauma. Ignorance and bigotry have no place in this world. Good luck, and I for one am proud to know you. ( Even if we have never met! :) )
 
goldfish65 said:
Yesterday was National Coming Out Day. So I'm a day late. I'm a gay man.

Some of you who don't understand or approve will never change your minds, and I expect that. The reason I am posting this is because still today, young people are taking their own lives or being deserted by their own flesh and blood, just because they are different, and because their remains so much ignorance and misunderstanding. Maybe one person reading this will recognize that someone they love is also one of the different ones and will open their mind and heart to what that person is going through, and let them know they are loved regardless.

My parents are deeply religious. Looking back on my childhood, from very early on, they could see I was different. The life I have lived was not what a parent dreams for their child, and that was difficult for them. Fortunately for me, they wanted to understand, and educated themselves including going to meetings of PFLAG (Parents and friends of Lesbians and Gays.)

Sex is what two consenting adults do behind closed doors. Being gay is far less about sex and more about who you love. Every person deserves to share their life with someone they love. Someone to go to the drugstore for you when you're sick. Someone to pick you up from the airport. Someone to share a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie with. Someone who cares.

I don't want to start a big ruckus on here, as I said there are some who will never accept this. At the same time, I don't see why I should have to hide something which I'm not ashamed of. Thanks for listening.
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I am thankful you are a friend and you along with others have given me great advice when I needed it. I do not judge you or your lifestyle. You are who you are a nice and caring person and I hope you never change. I know this wasn't easy for you. You are a strong person and stay that way. I hope to meet you one day and shake your hand.
 
goldfish65 said:
Yesterday was National Coming Out Day. So I'm a day late. I'm a gay man.

Some of you who don't understand or approve will never change your minds, and I expect that. The reason I am posting this is because still today, young people are taking their own lives or being deserted by their own flesh and blood, just because they are different, and because their remains so much ignorance and misunderstanding. Maybe one person reading this will recognize that someone they love is also one of the different ones and will open their mind and heart to what that person is going through, and let them know they are loved regardless.

My parents are deeply religious. Looking back on my childhood, from very early on, they could see I was different. The life I have lived was not what a parent dreams for their child, and that was difficult for them. Fortunately for me, they wanted to understand, and educated themselves including going to meetings of PFLAG (Parents and friends of Lesbians and Gays.)

Sex is what two consenting adults do behind closed doors. Being gay is far less about sex and more about who you love. Every person deserves to share their life with someone they love. Someone to go to the drugstore for you when you're sick. Someone to pick you up from the airport. Someone to share a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie with. Someone who cares.

I don't want to start a big ruckus on here, as I said there are some who will never accept this. At the same time, I don't see why I should have to hide something which I'm not ashamed of. Thanks for listening.
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makes no difference to me. i have a gay brother who actually just got married in NY a month ago. i have met many gay guys that are his friends and i gotta say they have all been the nicest people. its not my thing but i sure as hell am not going to hold it against anyone.
 
I've known a long time now. I told you when you let me know that it made no difference and just cause you're outin yer big gay self doesn't change a thing. lol You're still my friend and I still love you......but not that way. LOL
 
Hey, you're a car Guy and an A Body Guy at that.
Couldn't care less about which "Team" (to use the Seinfeld phrasing) you're playing for; you're on our FABO Team, and that's what matters.
 
makes no difference to me you are a great friend..my daughter is a lesbian and i have no problem with it i love her just the same...
 
you think that is a big deal
try being an atheist! :coffee2:
the only thing's I am against are prejudice and stupidity
 
I actually had a friend recently come out....we have been friends for about 12 years and all of us kind of knew maybe he was but didnt know for sure.

when he came out....it didnt stop any of us from being his friend....he is still a good guy and a good friend and if thats who he is then thats who he is....all there is too it.

some people are closed minded , some people don't realize that this is the 21st century and things are different and more acceptable.

I am not gay.....but I don't pass judgement on those who are.....just as I wouldnt want them passing judgement on me for being with a woman.

like others have said goldfish....your still alright in my book and my view of you has not changed...your a good member here on fabo!:cheers:
 
That took courage! Congrats on coming out. Sexual preference makes no differnece to me. A couple people have "come out" to me, I was glad they felt comfortable enough to tell me, and I want people to be themselves around me.
 
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