Tools- I guess I'm the one that's crazy

Agree with airwoofer. If you are so generous to store, move and retrieve items for someone - for free, they should be thankful for your generosity, and accomodating of YOUR schedule.

I'd lay down the law with the SIL without the emotional baggage of the two women involved.

As far as tool loaning, they are your tools to make that determination. I highly doubt that your wife asks you for your opinion on how she loans clothing or jewelry (which most women do).

Grant

WOW.. I must be typing slowly lol..