looks like im pulling the motor apart already

Run a tap in all holes put a very small amount of oil on bolt threads this helps the torque read right. also the torque sequence is critical.
Use a good torque wrench that is calibrated.

Measure and measure again if you are getting your heads resurfaced witch I suggest you do that will change the clearance.

Head bolts do stretch good bolts are very important.

Are you saying use oil instead of the stuff that came with the arp bolts?