FRUSTRATED! need help with carrier swap

Sounds like the cone splines and the side gear splines are not lined up! Take a large bar and turn the alxe a little bit till it will go in, you may have to tap on the end as you turn it. You need to lock down the other axle so it doesn't turn while your trying to get that alxe in.

the axle can go in the gears in feels like its hitting something. do i still try and tap it in? and how do i lock the other axle shaft from moving?