scenario #1 You show up and over analyze her motives and go into your moral and ethical dissertation about drinking. She will be out of there. Rosey Palm and lotion for you.
scenario #2 You show up you order a seltzer with lime or whatever, Smile act like a confident gentleman. If she asks why you are not drinking Smile shake your head and Say something like I know i must seem crazy but i have tried drinking and I just don't like the taste of it, I can't figure out why. .