Ok, you guys talked me into rebuilding myself, I need help now ;)

Pretty much what I got should do the trick-
Overhaul Kit
High perf frictions, either 4 red std thickness or the 5 thins, this was an issue for me
Wide red front band
Either red or kevlar single wrap rear band
Sonnax rev piston kit
Transgo TF2 shift kit is nice
3.8 or 4.2 kickdown lever (mine already had the 4.2, probably wasn't stock as a few pieces had already been upgraded)
Aluminum accumulator piston if yours has plastic - mine already had aluminum

Pretty simple when you don't have to find a million threads about it. There are other things you can upgrade like a bolt in sprag etc but I think unless you are really doing a lot of racing, the items above should do fine. I'm sure fishy and others will chime in as well.