NEED HELP ASAP on ignition

i checked the starter relay like you posted and neutral safety seems fine and the other gets power when i turn the key i may have a bad relay but i did arch it over and it tried to start the thing is im not getting spark and when i grounded the relay were the neutral safety is it still wouldnt turn with the key this all started on the way home yesterday it just died going down the road like i shut the key off and wont start back up