9 mm gun, what to get?

Confused yet? Everybody telling you that favorite brand of gun is great and all but......if it is not comfortable in your hand chances of you becoming a good shot with that particular firearm, considering that you are new to it all is pretty slim. Not to name brands, but one I picked up the grip was to big in diameter. Another the angle of it was all wrong. Another had a really miserable feeling trigger, another had a trigger that while the pull of it felt right the angle and shape were comical. And these are all brands & models that have been mentioned here. What works for one does not work for all. Wife swears she can feel the difference between a few of our same brand but different calibers, I can not. The one that she says is larger is the one she has the most trouble with. I would think that your best bet would be to find a range that also rents weapons and spend some time and $$ messing with a few of them.