Just a little miffed...

alright so digging through other posts it seems to follow what ive done.
A: disconnect the vac adv. (i always do by the way, learned that years ago via my old mans backhand...)
B: Rev engine until the timing mark stops climbing. done deal.
C. Total timing no more than 36-38 degrees, max. NOT INCLUDING THE VACUUM ADVANCE. right? right?
Seems the general consensus is no less than 10 degrees btc static for a good curve on a dizzy. ie: not having too long of a curve, mine is 24 degrees.
I got lucky on my factory style "reman" unit. 13 static, 24 mechanical, for a total NOT INCLUDING VACUUM ADVANCE of 37 degrees. the dizzy is "all in" at approx 2600 rpm.
now at idle, i know mechanical advance isnt kicking in. im sitting at 13 static. once i hook up the vacuum advance to MANIFOLD vacuum, boom, im sitting at 36.

So heres my main questions:
1. total advance does NOT include vacuum?
2. Is the advance at idle, static of 13 plus vacuum advance of 23 degrees for 36 at idle acceptable?
3. cruising down the road, doing 65-70, im winging 3000 rpm. now my timing then, static 13, plus full mechanical advance 24, PLUS vacuum advance 23 (i have an old school "motor minder" gauge thats fairly accurate, 16-17 in lbs of vac cruising), will put my timing at approx 60 degrees btdc under light load. IS THIS BAD?!
From what ive read in books, the net, (including the article demon 408 posted, and I re-posted) this seems like a huge twilight zone that doesnt have a solid answer, some say yes, some say no (Mopar to ya i understand where your coming from)....my head hurts....