life changing

Congrats on the kid coming.

Good to hear you are going to stick through this. Being a dad isn't easy (you're supposed to grow up before them). The first thing is you must be able to support both of them.

Second, if you want to keep in good with your gf/wife (if that happens) YOU HAVE TO HELP OUT WITH THE BABY. You have to do your share of changing the diapers AND feeding.

And when the baby is off breast feeding and on the bottle, man up once in a while and realize that she has been getting up many times in middle of the night, disturbing her sleep, and get up yourself and feed the bottle to the baby and give her a night or two to sleep once in a while. A sleepy/grumpy other half is no picnic to live with... Also she should appreciate you going through that so she can catch up and get a little sleep. Maybe even set up certain nights where you do it and then she does it. It will help her tolerate everyone better and be in a much better mood. Remember, you are both in this together, just changing a couple of diapers does not excuse you of a few mid night bottle feedings around 2 or 4 in the morning.

Secondly, as much as you have to work everyday, she has to take care of the baby while you are working. She deserves a break once in a while as much as you. Every once in awhile, volunteer to take care of the baby for a night and let her go out and de-stress. Let her have a night out once in a while or just take a nap, and sometimes she hopefully will let you have one. Remember that the baby is BOTH of yours and you have to give and take. You will then appreciate the days when your tired from work and she lets you go out or take a nap while she takes care of the baby. Taking care of a baby 24/7 is exhausting. You will soon find that out.

Basically, be considerate and remember that her job is as hard as yours. If you work together and let each other have a break once in a while, it will go a long way to help your relationship whether married or not.

It does sound like you have a good start. Keep it up.