While the anticipated birth of child is always a joyful occasion, you are getting some misguided worldview advice here that is contrary to the Word of God. As a Southern Baptist minister training to be a full time chaplain someday, in spite of what our society might say, pregnancy outside of marriage is still a big deal. It's a HUGE deal to God. The account of David and Bathsheeba should serve as a reminder. It's probably the single biggest cause of the decline of morality in this country today. It's good that the two of you did not choose abortion and you are taking responsibility, but do understand that this is serious business to God.
The people telling you this is no big deal, that there's no stigma attached to being an unwed mother nowadays, etc.; they're sharing what's called the worldview with you. That doesn't make them bad people. They're just sharing what the world has been feeding them. The world says if it feels good do it, truth is relative, right and wrong is a matter of personal opinion, and so on. I think you get the picture. Do not let anyone mislead you. The Bible is as relevant today as it was 1000 years ago, 2000 years ago, or 3000 years ago.
Since you've professed to be a Christian, seeking pastoral counsel is a must. I know this will fly in the face of everyone who's giving you worldview advice and telling you it''s not a big deal, but you also need to pray and ask God's forgiveness. By your own admission, you have stubbed your toe in spite of what the world may tell you. We all stumble. I've stumbled more than a few times. None of us are perfect but we have a Savior who did live a perfect life. When we do stumble and confess it and take ownership of our sin, the price is paid in full. Praise God for that! He will forgive you. God is eager to forgive. I know from personal experience!
Put all of this before God in prayer. Seek Godly counsel. Don't let the fear of failure keep you from doing what you know is right in your heart, and don't let fear and anxiety keep you from doing what you know God expects of His children.
Nothing takes God by surprise. None of this is bigger than Him. Commit this to Him. For His word is a lamp to your feet and a light for your path.
Recommended reading
Exodus 22:16
1 Timothy 4 verses 1 thru 5.
1 Corinthians 7, the entire chapter
Hebrews 13:4
I have three beautiful teenage daughters everyone kept saying you going try to see if you can get a boy. I always said no I'll have all the boys I need in about 16 years . And now I have all the boys I need!
