She's Killin Me Here ... Could Use Some Tips on Living With the Elderly

Seeing no end to this is going to drive you crazy Leanna :pale: and I wish I had the wisdom to send you to make things better :-|
I have been reading all the posts here and for the life of me I can't think of anything to help with this, but I do know this is not healthy for ether of you or her..
One thing I have experienced is a home is that A Home, it will never be a home with folks living with you, I have dun this to help family (brother inlaws and such) in need and all it seemed to do is
was make my home just a building to eat shower and sleep in :oops:
My grandmother lived with my wife and I for 3 months and it all went fine as long as I could leave her alone and visit with friends and such, but it really took a toll on my life style and my children,I was blest that my grandmother 83 at the time new she needed to stay with a sister and let us get back to the real reality of having our own space and raise our sons and have company over.... she stayed with her sister for about 2 weeks and moved into a retirement villa that had in house care with some folks her age that kept her busy and happy.
This did take some time for her to realize that this was best and she liked it.
We would visit sometimes just to see she had company and doing much better with in 2 weeks... She even started taking better care of herself, started telling jokes and made new friends.. This is the way JMO..
They don't like living in someone else'es home I believe. Like a child we have to make these decisions for them, and we felt bad for doing it as she demanded it to be dun anyway , but deep down inside she was scared at first till she seen folks her age and going places with them by transit that was provided

Keep your health Leanna, you are getting spread way to thin :sleepy3:
and robing yourself and Billy of a life that I am sure she would not want to do.. :sad:
she is confused and lost and it's time to show her the way to this part of her life, I really believe she will thank you for it after she finds herself around folks her age and except the new way of living :glasses7:

Prayers will be sent out for strength and wisdom for you and Billy and
will be looking forward to seeing this behind you as she moves forward :happy10: Grandma started going back to church with her new friends and this was a big happy time for her.

Billy, my brothers and mom felt bad to have to do this but and it was hard on us at night thinking this is terrible that we put grandma in a old folks home
and I understand you feeing this way... You are a good man and doing what your hart is telling you, But we found out it was harder on us then it was on her, Love her and do all you can brother, sometimes it's best but not easy.

I really think grandma lived a much happier life and longer by making introducing this new way of living life. Prayers for wisdom and peace for you and your home... Your Arkansas brother on the hill. Mike.