Marriage/relationship question

Well 340John, your question has many answers, most likely a combination of many things. You say there are no medical issues but it's a fact that as we older, we lose some degree of desire. I am no expert and I certainly wouldn't presume that because I have been married a long time, it was the result of anything I did right. But it can be related to your environment, stress, boredom, money problems, a reduction in hormone production, dependency on vices, etc. Where it came naturally years ago, you have to work at intimacy later in a relationship. I think it best to examine what is important to you and what is important to her and make sure there is a balance there. Don't take her for granted. I struggled with this for many years while we were raising children and paying bills. Now that things are easing up a bit, we have started to travel a little bit. Nothing exotic or expensive, just fun stuff we were not able to ever do before. Hiking, snow mobiling, sight seeing, just short trips twice a year but enough to give us something to look forward to and to reminisce about later. I feel my wife and I have become closer because of it. We now look forward to the next trip and enjoy each other more. That may or may not work for you and maybe you need a different solution.

I'll offer a prayer for you and your wife. Don't give up. Jeff