Marriage/relationship question

magnumdart said

I think a marriage is one thing, and a relationship is another. If you are in a marriage your wife should be the one you are asking the questions of. If you reach the long enough for you, then that is long enough. Your wifes long enough is just different. You need to work it out.

In a relationship, I would try to figure out who or what has replaced the intimacy.

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I don't think that a marriage and a relationship are two different things. You have to work on a marriage just like you work on a relationship - whether it's with someone of the same sex as you or the opposite sex. You get together with the guys to do what - work on cars, golf, or whatever - things you like to do together. You do the same thing with your girlfriend or wife - you do things that you both like doing - especially while you are dating. That needs to be kept up after you are married, or you will fall apart from each other.

My wife and I have tried to keep Date Nights as part of our marriage. It's hard with the kids, and sometimes they are far and few between, but sometimes you need to make the effort. I'm lucky to have my parents close by who will watch their grandchildren as often as we ask them to, so we have built in baby sitters(cheap too!) but when the money is tight, it's hard to do anything. But you have to - even if it's just a dinner at a local restaurant. My mom calls it quality time with her grandchildren!

Just my two cents worth.