Wife is pissed

For my wife and I, it's not about needing permission... I make all the money, she is a stay at home mom by both our choice... She needs something for herself, or me for myself, we just say something to the effect of "Hey, I'm gonna get whatever it is"... It's a communication thing - keeps the shock factor and the arguements that can come with it out of the equation. Bigger purchases like paint jobs, whole cars, furniture, the camper - we plan and save for.