Having to put Mom in nursing home

You have my sympathies.

I was lucky with my parents in that they were able to stay in their home until the end. My inlaws have not been so lucky. We just buried my father in law and the last 4 years have been painful. Every circumstance is, of course, different, but selling the family home is difficult for the elderly. They tend to view their home as their life and when it is gone, well, they just seem to give up. It's not a logical position from the view of the caregiver, but I'm pretty sure when my time comes that I'd rather they take me out in the woods and leave me for the bears.