What is my seal called?

Do you mean as in permatex silicone?

NO, I mean NON HARDENING thread sealant, it will say that right on the tube. You can pick up small tubes of it at your local parts store and possibly the hardware store.

The only reason I suggest it is because I have seen a few of them seep through the splines, it's minimal as a rule but still a leak nonetheless.

And if memory serves me I do believe it's 1 1/4" nut.