set limits and boundaries. If expectations are not met follow through with the punishment. Hell get the kids to come up with the punishments for themselves.
I have been told yelling does not get through to them because they learn to tune you out very quickly.
Ask them nicely ... if not done ...
when they ask for something ... a simple "no, because you did not ....."
I have not raised kids past 5 years, but i am getting there ... i heard the above method from an elderly lady.
