anybody got kids, past or present i got questions

The biggest point that I have read here is that you and the wife need to remain in agreement before the children. If you let them they will drive a wedge between you to get their way. If you and the wife don't agree, deal with it behind closed doors.

We have raised three girls and the youngest one has been babied by her mother and it has made life a living hell at times. She is married and it is still a living hell for her husband (he is no angel either) at times all because of her mother. The other two girls weren't babied and the oldest is from my first marriage.