anybody got kids, past or present i got questions
Bigger man than me. I can't/won't raise some other dude kids. I'm not built that way.
Best of luck to you.
What can i say i love my wife, this extends to her kids before me. You cannot accept a woman to be your wife and not accept her children even tho they are not your biological children. That mentality will never work.
The reason i posed these questions, because i was raised differently than she was, i had a stable home with 2 parents, we did what we were told, did chores, talked to them with respect, etc etc.
Unfortunately my wife did not have this "structure" growing up. She had a single divorced mom who wasnt home very much leaving her at a very young age to care for her younger siblings sometimes never seeing "mom" for 7 to 10 days at a time. I know my wife does the best she can, she is a great mom, but like all of us everybody can use good advice now and then. i asked her to read all the suggestions, and what y'all did raising your kids. She wants our kids on the right track as much as i do.
These kids and my wife had a rough life before i came into the picture. To say the man that fathered these kids is a dad is an absolute joke. I will not go into detail except to say he is not in their lives, to them i am daddy.
There have been changes in our household starting today for the better for all of us. I know kids are loud and have lots of energy, the problem was the kids not doing what they are told to do, and various other things we both find unacceptable.
We also have a child of our own who is now 8 months old. Whereas we are playing catch up on his older siblings, we are starting with him from day one.
Thank you everybody for your suggestions, we will be picking from this thread the things that work for us
Matt
