removing ballast resistor WIRING, MSD, switched 12v source,

I do not get pin 86 of relay. If it is powered by 87, the NO contact, the relay will latch and it will crank forever while the battery runs down, on the first start.

I don't either. If this is a "standard" Bosch relay, the wiring the OP laid out is all wrong

Do I understand that you no longer plan to add a relay?

So called "standard" SPDT relay