My Parents

This pic is of my Mom and Dad, 64 years ago today.

Dad passed away 8 days ago, with his family at his side, quietly, peacefully. I had him for the 58+ years of my life, but I sure miss him, and will miss him.

Going to head over to Mom's shortly and cook her anniversary meal, and we will toast my Dad!! Making her pan seared lamb chops, lobster tail, corn on the cob and a salad!

FF

Sorry for your loss FF.

Be well,
Pat

He's not gone......your dad will live with you forever.

sorry for your loss.Sounds like a good home cooked meal.

FF, good idea, the anniversary dinner. I lost my dad too, it's not pleasant, but for mom, I don't know how she can be so strong. We continue to have an anniversary dinner / family get together on their anniversary. They were married for 57 years. Sorry to hear of your loss. Give your mom a little extra time if you can, she will adore you for it.

You are a good son. Keep doing things like this and it will help both you and your mom through one of the most difficult times of your lives. God Bless.

My condolences. Remember,it's a celebration of life lived.

My condolences to you and your family on your recent loss.

Keep up those anniversary meals, those are lonely days for the surviving spouse - we took Mom out for Dad's birthday and their anniversary after he died up until a little over 5 years later when we buried her on what would've been their 50th anniversary. You're lucky to have had your Dad for 58 years, too! Sounds like a great meal you put together for your Mom. Well done, sir.

I agree!! Keep the anniversary tradition going in honor of your parents. May God bless you and keep your hearts in His care!!

Treva and I send out our condolences and may your day and many more count all the blessing you and your mom and many friends shared by having your father in everyone's life
May your day be humbled with love and care Fstforward, sounds like you had a good day planned yesterday... Lets do it again next year.

Sorry....My Dad is getting pretty old all of the sudden and has had medical issues for a while. He loves to take the hour drive each way to help me put my Duster back together so I try to invite him up whenever I can. Can't say I know how you feel but I can imagine..

Thank you all for your kind words!! My Dad and I were quite close, and the 9 days since his passing have been the hardest days of my life.

I made Mom dinner last night and we sat and talked about Dad, some great conversation, hugs, and tears.

Seeing him get increasingly frail over the last 7 years, and especially the last 6 months gives me some comfort that he is out of his suffering now. A car accident in 2001 aggravated an already arthritic spine, something that did not bother him much before the accident, but became increasingly painful afterwards. He was an avid golfer, but legs that would go numb and give way forced him to give the game up in 2006. My siblings and I feared that giving up his 2nd love, golf would hasten his demise, but he lived over 7 years afterwards, with a great attitude.

He broke his hip in a fall in March of last year, had surgery, and worked his *** off to get out of the rehab center..took him 6 weeks. Many 87 yr olds, that would've been a death sentence, broken hip. He had a couple of bouts with congestive heart failure last year, also, facilitating time in the hospital and managed care, but came home each time. He got increasingly weaker as this year went on. I would go over to his place a couple of times a week to help him shower, then dress him. Wednesday night(25th sept) he was weak and tired. I feared he would leave us soon, but not this soon, He went, with Mom, onto the porch the next day, sat down in his chair, and left us peacefully. Oh, he 'lived' another 9 hours, with help of drugs and a respirator, but knowing there was no hope, and that he did not want to live 'hooked up', the breathing tube and iv were pulled at 1230am the 27th. At 1:10 his heart stopped.

He had a good life, 88 years 8 months. And still, even in dire pain and weakness, would sing to Mom every morning, many times Hank WIlliams' "Hey, Good Looking".

He is sorely missed, but I know I will see him again on the other side.

FF

Keep those times in your heart, they are easily blurred. I lost my dad a few months ago, it doesn't get easier you just get stronger. I have a picture hung on the bedroom wall right at the door of my mom and dad, I take a bit of time each morning just looking at it so I won't forget the man he was.

i am so sorry for your loss. i cant even imagine the pain you feel. My pop is 76 years old, and mom is 75 years old. Dad is still into the car stuff, but he moves slower than he used to. i talk to my folks every morning on my way to work since i live half way across the country from them. i get to see them mebbe 2 to 3 times a year. but our 20 minutes every morning is a thing we have been doing for the past 18 years.

please i urge all of you who still have one or both of your parents with you to please take some time out of your day to call and talk to them. if you live close enough to go over for a visit a couple times a week please do so. the one thing you can never get back is the time you should have spent with them. but the memories you will have from taking time to spend with them you will have for the rest of your lives. i know i will be upset when my folks pass away , however i know that i have the memories of all the things we talked about, tho i am 1,900 miles away from them i am as close as a phone call.

sounds like you made your mom a wonderful anniversary meal. she needs your support now more than ever, sounds like your dad was a swell guy. mebbe thru your mom you can learn more about your dad thru things she can tell you about him. what a great way to honor him, and keep his memory alive is to share his life with your children and grand children.

its hard to talk about the loss of a loved one, what exactly do you say. the pain never goes away. but talking about the good times helps ease the pain.

I will second what was said, if your parent(s) are still living, take a couple of minutes now and then to see them, or talk to them.

That said, my Dad LOVED cake, any kind of cake, you mention cake, and he'd be first in line. My 2 year old grandson(Dad's great grandson) is a chip off the old block, loves cake. He sees cake, he will ask, and ask, and ask until he gets it. Ask him what he wants for his birthday, he just says, "Birthday cake."

My son got engaged earlier this year, and his fiance's family threw a little picnic for them, a kind of get acquainted picnic so the families could meet.

Near the end of the picnic, you guessed it, cake came out. Dad and my grandson were captured in what is one of my favorite pictures of them together, here it is:

FF

Fstforward said:

I will second what was said, if your parent(s) are still living, take a couple of minutes now and then to see them, or talk to them.

That said, my Dad LOVED cake, any kind of cake, you mention cake, and he'd be first in line. My 2 year old grandson(Dad's great grandson) is a chip off the old block, loves cake. He sees cake, he will ask, and ask, and ask until he gets it. Ask him what he wants for his birthday, he just says, "Birthday cake."

My son got engaged earlier this year, and his fiance's family threw a little picnic for them, a kind of get acquainted picnic so the families could meet.

Near the end of the picnic, you guessed it, cake came out. Dad and my grandson were captured in what is one of my favorite pictures of them together, here it is:

FF

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Now thats a pic thats priceless. Its a memory you will have forever. I treasure the memories i have made with my folks all these years, and most recently the restoration of my dads lil red express we both worked so hard on. Had lots of fun, flew back and forth a lot to help him out (im an airline employee)

Please guys n gals on this site dont take your folks for granted. We are all on this rock for a limited time, and nobody knows what their expiration date is. Call em to just say hi, i miss y'all, i love you guys, it may sound goofy to some of you, but i bet they would be happy to hear from you.