Stupid,Stupid People!
Being a single father and going up against the social belief that "the mother should have the child" in the courts and against childrens aid (childrens services) to get custody of a child is a long tedious and expensive process.
you know, that never made sense to me
if I for instance have a dollar bill...and I drop that dollar bill into a vending machine and I get out a bag of tater chips, do the chips belong to me or to the vending machine ?
and why should it be any different with kids?
:D
in all seriousness though, I might be a bit younger then most guys contributing to this conversation and I got very few spankings in my day
in fact, I could get away with anything short of disrespecting my mom before getting slapped.
I honoustly believe if I had gotten spanked more it wouldn't have taken me so long to grow up and I would have behaved much better as a teen
I don't want to turn this whole thread into a religious discussion so I wont quote any of the dozens of verses that instruct parents to discipline (not abuse, but give a good spanking when needed) their kids but I would like to share the words of a preachers I heard on the radio once
this particular preacher was sharing some of the wisdom him mom used to threaten him with when he was misbehaving as a boy. Im pretty sure this preacher was an African American and his mom said she would "beat the black right off of you" if he didn't behave
the way I run my house is pretty straight forward: the pain of the punishment must outweigh the pleasure of the trespass
sometimes that means he gets a spanking, something that means he gets a time out, sometimes it means his brand new toy is going straight into the trash and (this might be my favorite) sometimes it means daddie gets to eat his desert
but always always ALWAYS it means the pain of the punishment outweighs the pleasure of the trespass or they will not learn
you know what really bugs me about taking the kids to play at MDs, the park or wherever?
to see how little social skills people teach their kids
I pride myself on raising polite kids, if you pass by my house and my boy is outside he will wave at you and say hi, if you are an officer he will say "hi officer", if you wear scrubs or a white coat he will say "hi doctor" and im working on getting him to say "thank you" to anyone wearing fatigues
it bugs me so bad when he goes into a play ground and says "hi friends" (any kid he doesn't know he calls friend) and no one says hi back :banghead:
