Huge change in my life coming :(

I've been through a separation and divorce, I know it tears you up inside! Some advice from someone who does not know you; 1) do not dwell on the wrongs, it will only get you down. 2)do not speak ill of your ex even in private, your kids will find out about it and blame you. 3) remember you can change yourself but you can not change anyone else. 4) it does not get better with time, you just get better at coping. 5) find those that you can spend time with, some times to talk about the loss, other times to help you get past it. 6) FIND A WAY TO HELP OTHERS, GETTING OUT OF YOURSELF IT THE BEST THERAPY!

I hope this helps, if you want to talk let me know, I'll pm my phone/e-mail.