if any one is still watching this thread...got it back together...here's what I did
new inner oil seal...packed the spring with bearing grease so it wouldn't fall off when tapping it in
placed new metal gasket napa fel-pro pn 55032 convex side against the housing...flat side against the backing plate
placed hidensity foam gasket from dr diff on drum side of backing plate...
ran big ol bead of rtv around the o-ring and slipped the axle back in
tightened it all down to 45ftlbs as per shop manual
hopefully this ends the saga of leaking green bearings!!!
will post a follow up after rtv cures and I take it for a spin