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I'm sorry to hear of your struggle, but there is life after divorce no matter how bad it may seem. Take things one day at a time, and you will get through this. I am toward the end of my divorce, and finally feeling better about things. The best thing you can do is see if your marriage can work, and if it's totally done, don't argue and fight over things - it will make it worse. Fortunately my ex and I have been real civil with each other (even when I would love to tell her off).