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earthmover

earthmover

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well as some may know I work out of town a lot kinda hate it but glad to work..been having problems for a while in my marriage so I call a call today while out of town telling me the papers have been filed...kinda stuck don't know which way to go are what to say..been rough a few years now but thought things could would get better.......things are tough right now being out of town just got another truck to work and struggling to keep my head up from all the hit of buying it and getting it going now this...just don't know what to do or look for now...been with my wife since 1989 got married in 1998...hurt ..so I may not be here much anymore don't know if I will have to sell everything or what but I don't really care about the stuff just getting my life back on track..
 
I'm sorry to hear of your struggle, but there is life after divorce no matter how bad it may seem. Take things one day at a time, and you will get through this. I am toward the end of my divorce, and finally feeling better about things. The best thing you can do is see if your marriage can work, and if it's totally done, don't argue and fight over things - it will make it worse. Fortunately my ex and I have been real civil with each other (even when I would love to tell her off).
 
Sorry to here this news earthmover. Went thru a separation then divorce to my first wife in 1988 that blindsided me. We were having problems no doubt but thought she would have at least talked to me before moving out, but that didn't happen and broke my damn heart. Good luck and our thoughts are with you. Feel free to PM me.

Oldschoolcuda
 
Sorry to hear your problems have come to this.

But all you can do is be civil and if isn't what you want see if she is willing to work on it one more time.

If she is done there is nothing you can do.

Life does go on.

Try and take care of yourself.
 
Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy earthmover......best in everything...keep your chin up brother
 
prayers sent--- hang in there use this board as a stress relief--- might find some solace in that. Lawrence
 
Sorry for your troubles. Good luck and keep your head up.
 
Sucks,

Seen a uncle I worked for throw everthing away business, houses and all over divorce. Try not to let that happen just try and be fair and move on. Half of something is still half, half of nothing is what my uncle ended up with. Drugs may have also played a part in that situation.
 
My first one "officially" (court) ended 30yrs ago this year. I came home from a 9 to 5, took off my dirty clothes, and when I went to the closet to get something to put on, it was half empty. Totally confused, I went thru the apartment and noticed our kids rooms were basically empty. I got to the kitchen only to find a note on the counter that said they had gone to her mothers and it was pretty much over.......

Long story short, I had to go on with life/work, but it took months for it to settle in that it was over. This came completely out of nowhere, that's what really hurt.

Fortunately, we were both young and didn't own anything of substance.

I'll keep you in my thoughts, it's going to take time. Best case scenario, you guys can work this out, but if not, i hope you both can come to a equitable settlement when all the dust clears.
 
Hang in there Mike. Many of us here have been down that road. It's no fun getting kicked in the teeth like that, but, there is a life after a marriage breakup. Don't be afraid to come on here and vent. Remember one thing if it goes down divorce road, "you catch more flies with honey". The only people that get rich off a divorce are the liars, I mean lawyers.

Jack
 
Don’t know you. So hope this helps.
From what you wrote.
You are working to provide.
Is she? Or does she just sit around and cause you problems?
Regardless.
My guess is that you care more than she does.
That being he case you will be better off without her.
 
Wow Mike this is a hard thing to get past and stay motivated as you move forward in life, but I Will keep you in my prayers that wisdom and move on in life and grow will be top priority in you life at this time, we must remember to love ourselves and carry on as life hands us thing's that we did not expect.
I wish I had the word that can help, prayers sent asking for wisdom to lead you each day.
 
Sorry to read of your troubles...been down that divorce road a while back, not much fun.
 
that really sucks bro went through it twice last time three years ago turned out she was screwing my so called best friend. I am a trucker also seems most women need their men with them... go figure.. I still suffer from depression as the last one spun me out real bad. I take it one day at a time and lean on family and friends a lot. it does get better just takes time. Once the relationship is over its all business so get a real good lawyer cause she WILL go for the throat they all do. keep your anger in check and don't text bad stuff she will save them all and use them against you. Prayers have already been sent your way. stay strong
 
May you rest in peace!...And remember, as Steve Martin once said, "Things aren't as bad as they seem, you still have your brain"!
 
Sorry to hear this.
Get in your mind that you're better off without her, it might as well be now than when you are in your '70s.
I went through this about 7 years ago, and had to restart my life again. It cost me a lot, and it almost cost me my sanity.
I now have a great lady in my life and the past is well......just the past.
My advice to you is get it done and over with (the settlement) as soon as you can, and then move on with your life as best as you can. Things will get better, and as a matter of fact, your life will get better than you expected. Gone will be the wonder and the games.
Chin up, and stay with us, you are a valuable asset here.......
Tom.
 
junior said:
that really sucks bro went through it twice last time three years ago turned out she was screwing my so called best friend. I am a trucker also seems most women need their men with them... go figure.. I still suffer from depression as the last one spun me out real bad. I take it one day at a time and lean on family and friends a lot. it does get better just takes time. Once the relationship is over its all business so get a real good lawyer cause she WILL go for the throat they all do. keep your anger in check and don't text bad stuff she will save them all and use them against you. Prayers have already been sent your way. stay strong
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Hate to disagree with you....when I went thru it I raked my Ex over the coals...All of our debt was joint. She was in such a rush to get away from me she would not listen to the attorney. She wanted to give me all the equity in the house, and some land in MT in exchange for getting out from under the debt. Does not work that way. We did our best to reason with her about it but she would not listen. I took complete advantage of it. Had her quit claim the property in MT to me, had her quit claim the house to me, had to refinance to get her off the note. The day I had my copy of the divorce agreement I filed Bankruptcy. Few months later she was screaming at me...how could you blah blah blah....Simple enough, pay back for the hell I went thru....Anyhow, she ended up having to file BK, lost her car and the place she & her new Husband had just purchased. Believe she even lost her job over it....First words out my mouth when we got serious was a warning not to play games with me....She should have listened...

Don't mean this as a slam on anyone....but anyone that claims they are completely innocent in a failing marriage is not being honest....it takes two to make a marriage work and two for it to fall apart...unless the spouse is a complete nut job....but even then the other part PROBABLY had there doubts going in to it....
 
thanks guys for the info and the help....im staying busy working making sure my trucks are running well...doing things to keep my mind off the bad things..
 
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