Just when I give the benefit of the doubt

So, this reminds me of one of my most recent confrontations. Now, let me say that my Wife criticizes me for dealing with things in too harsh of a manner. So, my wife and I are at a Bob Seger concert. The guy in front of my wife, stands up and blocks my wife's view. So, after about 5 minutes, I can see LOVEY is getting pissed off. I gently tap on buddy's shoulder, and say "excuse me sir, can I ask you to please sit down, because you are blocking my wife's view, and I want all of us, to be able to enjoy the show. And thank you very much Sir." I thought I was being really polite, but I could tell this guy was really STEAMED, that I had said anything at all. A few minutes later, ( as my wife was commenting, about how good the show was), Buddy turns around and says " tell that ***** to keep her f-ing mouth shut, I AM TRYING TO ENJOY THE SHOW TOO". So, I said " Look, you C--K Sucker, I tried to talk to you like a gentlemen, but now you pissed me off, so now if you don't shut the F up, sit down, and look straight forward, I am going to beat the **** out of you, and your friend, in front of your FAT wives ! The guy , and his friend were so Demasculized, that they left the show about ten minutes later. I am not a big , tough guy. I weigh 185 lbs, and am 5'7". How I reacted was NECESSARY. The guy didn't understand me when I talked to him like a gentlemen, so I switched things up for him.