Selling parts and lack of manners.

What is this "check with the wife mentality?" That doesn't have a think to do with weather I buy or not! I would think most on here don't have to check with the wife? Often the determining factor for me is SHIPPING COST! Or maybe a few more details. Shipping cost and the fact that some sellers "feel" it is OK to charge for their time, labor and gas to the shipper is OK. That is fine,I just want to know the cost, then I'll pull the trigger. Or would you prefer I tell the seller,yes I'll take it and then write back and say "OH no the shipping is to much, i don't want it now."
The reason no consideration is given from either side is because we sit behind a monitor and don't have to face each other mam to man. Ok this is my last comment on this subject.