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Sure seems that way at times....glad I am "the last one standing" in my family...sort of...sister is still around, have not seen nor spoke to her in over 12 years...
 
I can't stand drama. My girlfriend's family lives on drama. I think some people need it or they don't feel right. If I want drama I'll watch a movie or TV show. That way I can shut it off anytime.
 
WRB426 said:
I can't stand drama. My girlfriend's family lives on drama. I think some people need it or they don't feel right. If I want drama I'll watch a movie or TV show. That way I can shut it off anytime.
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Way too many people get caught up in it. Some, like you said, practice it regularly because they thrive on it. Why I don't know.
 
Some one is in jail...there girl friend is hitting every one up for bail...toddler screaming about her arm hurting, deadbeat dad twisting it....sheriffs called on it...people fighting and arguing.....sister on the verge of a nervous breakdown.....frigging nightmare. I don't know about anybody else but I don't tolerate this crap at all. When I met my wife she was elbow deep in this crap. When she asked me for my opinion I refused to give it to her. Told her that the way I solve problems is not for everyone....To me a family member that is constantly creating drama is like gangrene....and what do you do about gangrene?? You amputate it....I did battle with my family for what seemed to be forever...finally just walked away....and my life got better....go figure...I realize that this is all part of the dynamics of a family....and I also realize why this is why I am, except for my wife, friendless....and also why I like being alone...
 
Ink and the others here.......

Christ sakes my family, (My mothers side) tried to make me HATE my Dad and his side of MY family, turns out their drama was to make me something I'm not, nor EVER will be, and they're still that way even today. sadly, like Ink said, I had to cut off some of them due to the I just can't stand the bullshit anymore.........Its sad to have to say it that way, but Ink, your right it is like Gangrene, you remove it, to not infect any further then it already has......

AND not being a Bible thumper here, BUT it speaks of things such as to have you sin, if it does, and or causes a lot of strife in ones life to fall back onto Sin, your to remove it, or cut it loose......SO.....

My wife's family couldn't understand and still don't why I don't "bother" them, my Mother-in-law can't understand why I don't have anything to do with her or her one Son, my youngest brother-in-law, but hes out for him ,and has a seriopus drug problem (that she won't admit he has) and wonder why I want nothing to do with it? I mean **** he came to my house after my open heart surgery to see if MY wife would get into my pain meds and sell him some to make some household money when he thought, I was getting no income at all.. little did he know, I was OK and have survived, BUT right now its tight, and all but with my Health, I'm waiting on my income tax return to get me out of some crap that stacked up and once that happens all will be better again, a few last medical bills that I just didn't have enough to cover but outside of them, I'm good......

Anyway, that's the type crap I want nothingto do with and will avoid it at all costs......... meaning, that if my Wife has to go to HER family reunion, alone, she WILL. Same for my own family's reunion,. I too don't like Drama, nor anything to do with it....
 
I've had my share of family drama like most people, and some old friends too that i never talk to anymore.
I try to eliminate the b.s. in my life for mental health reasons. (Mine!)
 
I've made my life simpler the last 10 years or so buy writing off people who only bring drama to our relationship.

Especially when it is caused by their life choices
 
There's drama in my family too. I'm not even going to give it credence by talking about it. Gangrene, that's a great word for it.
 
My wife's sister has crack head boyfriends, ****** addict children, stolen trust fund money, fraudulent state welfare scams, jail terms, deaths by overdose, a baby who dies injesting dropped "medicine", and she wants to know why no one will associate with her?? Called drunk on her 50th birthday crying that no one called her.....umm, yea!!!

Wrote off that soap opera years ago! At least they're all scared of me, and that's the way I like it!!! Geof
 
Thank Gauwd my parents are not still alive. I refer to the tail end of mine as 'the person formerly known as my sister.' She is the executor of the estate, and seems bound and determined to end up with all of the property. I'm sure we'll end up in court. The odd thing is, some 20-25 years ago I could never have imagined I would have this sort of situation.
 
Exactly why Kitty and I are Purdy much hermits now. We go to my family reunion once a year at Thanksgiving and that's about it. All the other family everywhere else besides that it seems are psychopathic.
 
I thought I was the only one! LOL Yeah right. I am going through it too Doug and then Saturday night...I lost it. My sisters kids are out of control ( 22 and 18) Then my lady starts on me and I said some things I have held in for years. I have been dating this lady for 7 years and we ended it. Her family is always having drama in their family and I am tired of being kept around on Handy man status. 7 years!!!
 
RustyRatRod said:
Did I say that anywhere?
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An honest man for sure!:cheers:

I'm in this club too! Cut the gangrene out of my family and I am enjoying life more. The only member of my family that I continued a relationship is With my older brother. That leaves mom, one brother and two sisters (and their families) out of the picture. One sister and father are dead.

Our phone was ringing off the hook yesterday with the wife's family drama. She tries to stay neutral, but they still are aggravating and annoying. The wife's two best friends are also drama queens and right now they are fighting over who gets to hold the big graduation party for their kids. They keeping calling and texting her to get her to tell the other they are wrong. I told her years ago that she doesn't need friends who act like they do.

Maybe that's why I have very few friends too. But if that's what it takes to have more friends, I think I'll pass. Anyway, I always have FABO!:blob:
 
My folks disconnected from most of the extended family when I was young, so I've managed to avoid a bunch of drama that way until recently. My dad is a stand-up guy and has been the executor for relatives' estates, some of which he's had no contact with for years. Cue drama...The sister with the gambling problem that squandered all of her state-donated home-improvement money on slots, the smack-addict cousins recently paroled for killing their dealer and the bible-thumping know-it-alls that like to tell everyone how they should live...All there, holding out their hands. Nothing brings out the worst in people like the chance at free stuff.

My fiancee's family is surprisingly low-drama...Which is very nice.
 
jtolbert said:
My folks disconnected from most of the extended family when I was young, so I've managed to avoid a bunch of drama that way until recently. My dad is a stand-up guy and has been the executor for relatives' estates, some of which he's had no contact with for years. Cue drama...The sister with the gambling problem that squandered all of her state-donated home-improvement money on slots, the smack-addict cousins recently paroled for killing their dealer and the bible-thumping know-it-alls that like to tell everyone how they should live...All there, holding out their hands. Nothing brings out the worst in people like the chance at free stuff.

My fiancee's family is surprisingly low-drama...Which is very nice.
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Very true. Was with my Ex for 6 months or so when her first family member died. By the end of that year 4 of them passed. What a nightmare. They were depression era folks. Did not use a bank, Grandpa had close to 50k stashed in the basement. Charlie knew where it was and took it all. Was so stupid he did not put anything back the way it was before he went and clipped it all. Of course denial denial denial. Could not explain where the new car came from after he told everyone in the family that he could not get a new car thanks to his bad credit...

When I first met Ernie she was having a rough go. Spent many nights sitting at a diner til 3 a.m. chatting. She finally asked for advice....Simply asked her if what she was getting was worth what she was getting...Damn near see the light bulb come on.....

When I hit the roughest part of my life I went to a friend for help. Joe gave me the big blue book, the AAA book. One thing stuck with me, "a wise man does not manufacture his own misery"...pretty good rule to try to live by...

Ernie talked to her sons girlfriend last night. Heard the sure sign of folks who just don't "get it".....nothing but denial. Was not his fault, he was just driving his friends down the road when he got stopped etc...Don't get me wrong, I understand that they are young and all.....but there is nothing wrong with owning up to your mistakes....

Lifes lessons sure can be difficult....
 
They say that there is one in every family.

... But we don't have one in our family.... :smile:


... Oh wait... That must mean that.... :banghead:


...It must be ME!!! Crap... :violent1:


I guess that I'm the "black sheep" in my family... :axe:


I never realized that before... :sad1:
 
Scanning the thread makes me think perhaps I'm not full of crap.
Please ignore the original topic of the thread below.
That's not my intention at all.
The point is looking at personality types and speaking in general terms.
http://www.forabodiesonly.com/mopar/showthread.php?t=273974&page=3
See post 48. (55) and particularly 67.
Agree or not. Just food for thought.
 
adriver said:
Scanning the thread makes me think perhaps I'm not full of crap.
Please ignore the original topic of the thread below.
That's not my intention at all.
The point is looking at personality types and speaking in general terms.
http://www.forabodiesonly.com/mopar/showthread.php?t=273974&page=3
See post 48. (55) and particularly 67.
Agree or not. Just food for thought.
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Your wording and context are far to deep, perhaps confusing for a simple minded person like myself....I realize that you were speaking in "general terms" but...

In regards to this.....

"I’m just saying that those that migrate to Chevy (or Ford to a lesser extent) tend to be more concerned with what other people might think, or they are more group oriented."

I can say this....I have been, and always will be a "Ford" guy. First car was a 66 Mustang....second was a 67. I was "into" Rangers for several years....owning 5 of them...as well as 2 of there SUV relatives the Explorer...sitting next to the Dart is a 64 Fairlane that if I had been able to convince my wife to let me, in her words, butcher the car by putting a T-bolt hood and a cage in it, would have been the car that I started to build into my future hot rod. Back to the point....I have 0 concern for what others think of me. Group orientated? Other than the wife I have no folks in my life that I call friends....acquaintance perhaps but friends no. I live on a small 5 acre chunk of land....that is fenced with locked gates. People pull up the gates to talk to me, I just look at them and go about my business. Took a friend of the wife's the better part of 2 months to get me to go out to dinner with them. While I say I am a car guy my first "true love" was motorcycles.....for the simple fact that I am alone on it. I have never, except for 1 occasion never ridden in a group. I can count on both hands how many times I have went riding with a friend...and I have covered close to 400k miles on 2 wheels.....so I would say that I am about as much of a "Lone Wolf" as you can get....

Sorry for rambling....carry on....
 
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