Glad you found some sort of issue that was fixable and makes some sense with the symptoms. And, I don't think folks think anything bad about your car.....it's machinery and machinery breaks!
Reading this says to me that the resistor was glowing red while the car was not running. Am I reading that right? The ballast and coil are not meant to be be on all the time; they are switched on and off constantly for each saprk when the car is running. They CAN be on constantly when the ignition siwtch is in the ON position but the car is not running. What kind of ignition system is this?