Need advice from Step Fathers/Fathers please

J-Mac, you have gotten some VERY good advice here. I can honestly say that I agree with everything that has been said. My three kids are all grown, my youngest (daughter ) is 18. Wow I feel old saying that!

All I have to add is "consistency". Kids need to know where you stand on things. If something is prohibited today, then tolerated tomorrow, you will always be tormented with your kids "pushing the envelope" to see how far they can get, so to speak. They are trying to learn where their boundaries really are; not necessarily where you "say" they are.

Those boys are young, their minds are like sponges! Always soaking up info, mostly from what they SEE and experience, not as much as what they are "told".

Sounds to me like you have nothing but their best at heart; but it still takes a LOT of time, effort, and energy. Sometimes it may feel like a losing battle. Don't give up like so many parents seem to do. This will eventually pay off big time!

One more thing... It's the internet. It's a dangerous place for youngsters. They will 'learn' more there than they should. They may get so caught up on web based info, forums, etc, Sometimes inappropriate content, or even worse... Firm parental control is needed here.

Kids are great! I love mine dearly, but believe me, there were times when the challenges seemed overwhelming. Raising kids isn't for sissies! Good luck in your new adventure!