Need advice from Step Fathers/Fathers please

I know it "feels right," but make sure this new lady is the wonderful girl you think she is. You would not be the first honorable man whose life was made hell by an unstable woman. A man's judgment can sometimes be clouded when he has the chance to be the hero. There are many lives at stake here. A person's past can often tell us a lot about them.

On a lighter note, I have a phobia about "alternate spellings" of names...Tabatha/Tabitha. That was a red flag to me lol! But that's just a silly phobia of mine. I hope you really have found the wonderful girl and the happy family of your dreams.