Need advice from Step Fathers/Fathers please

Am a "step dad", by name only, 2 of her kids have never spoken a word to me as they fill I am the reason Ernie left....truth of the matter is I had nothing to do with that but....See some folks saying father or friend....I say both are important, with more weight on the father part of it. But being a friend to a child is not a bad thing either....there is going to be some things that require both.

One thing life has taught me is view things form a "is what you are getting worth what you are getting" view point. Not saying this is the case with your GF/kids but what if you are "rescuing" them in a way? Will you be able to stand the head/heart ache IF things don't work out?