Trailer wiring help

Can somebody do a wiring schematic for whatwe are talking about. I have the two 06wire One red one black ran from my tow vehicle battery back to the rear bumper and into my Anderson disconnect. I do not use a trailer battery for the winch or the hydraulic pump. How do I need to be hooking this up? Where do I get a "continuous duty solenoid" and how would I hook it up? It sounds like I have been fortunate NOT to have burnt anything up. And I don't want to give Wirenut bad advice.