Whoa There Almost Homeless Guy
Not to defend all scumbags mooching off their parents but times are different. When you were fresh out of high school you could get a respectable blue collar job that offered a pay that you could support yourself and your family with if you worked hard and were frugal. That is not the case for today's graduates. Go to college, get a degree in a specialized major (none of that business BS) and then you might have some opportunities that you could support yourself with. The fact of the matter is that there is a shrinking middle class in the US. We're you used to be able to find a job with a GED you now need a Bachelors. The fact of the matter is some people aren't cut out for higher education, and right now, if you aren't you have very limited options.
This is an unfortunate truth.
Even with my skill set and abilities, it was difficult for me to find a pause in traffic long enough, to get on the road with my slow ***. I moved out when I was 27.
Granted, I did help my mom pay her mortgage when she was unemployed a few times and let her drive my car. I think, toward the end, the decision to move out was from being influenced to help her be more independent as well.
When I hear about parents who have had violent kids, I think the hard fist is not the answer.
When you are around people who would do things, like leave their siblings blood all over the living room floor, if you put yourself in their shoes, they've seen it all and no amount of threat is ever going to change them for the better at that point, any more than a person who is regularly put into jail or prison.
I honestly think you might want to take the same approach that I took with my mom, where it was mutually beneficial and I moved out on good terms with her.
Without being condescending, talk to him about building credit and about helping him save for his own place.
I couldn't stand the idea of roommates, because I like having a house. I went from my mom's to two different, single family houses on their own lots, before buying this one, but my brothers had great success (Borat voice!) in having roommates and allowed them to move out at a younger age than I did.
This way, he might be more inclined to seeing the benefits of moving out, without having all of the financial burden bury him at once, like a dump truck, while holding a trowel to dig himself out.
I think if you went about this diplomatically and helped him get some roommates, help him establish credit so he can get approved for a place, he will look back and appreciate it more than getting a swift boot in the ***, because clearly, that has not worked out in anyone's favor with your family in the long run, in the past, as I take it.
