451 stroker rear gears question

the converter is too loose. Putting a 3.23 gear in will make it a lot looser.

I 100% agree. The stall speed and attitude of a torque converter changes a lot depending on load. Going from a 4.10 to a 3.23 is going to put the converter under a lot more load and drive the stall speed up even more. I would get a tighter converter and go from there.