Trans help for a friend needed

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Sorry, clunk was wrong.(I will edit) But you may have missed the whole story by focusing on the one word. The point was, there is absolutely no pressure dampening in reverse.The accumulator is bypassed. So a harsh engagement is un-avoidable.
-Its the accumulators job to soften or dampen all the forward shifts, so most kits defeat it or modify it to speed up the shifts.
-You will need to obtain instructions for the kit that was installed to see if this was addressed, and verify that the step was performed. Or open up the vb. But that might not help you if you dont know what the various oem springs look like.
-Im 62 this June, so I kinda understand what youre going through. Perhaps a return to a stock valve-body is in your future.Its a very simple bolt-on. The kitted vb may not be able to be returned to stock, and is best left shelved.
-The oem vb that you obtain,can be modified with a shift improver kit, that is a lot less harsh, if you so desire.
I pretty much understood what you said, I was just clarifying that it wasn't a monstrous metallic "clunk" but an aggressive transition. I most definitely would like to "de"-shift kit the valve body/trans and return to stock. Next will be the damn shifter. lol. Thanks for your help. :)