Neutral Safety Switch

I only get frustrated when people don't read carefully, and follow thru on looking up diagrams on the internet for guidance.

Yes, 85 to NSS

86 to a terminal of "starter switch"
+12 V to other terminal of "starter switch"
There probably is no terminal marked "+" on the starter switch, but if there is, use it for 12 V.

No. Do not connect the starter switch to gnd. I clearly said that. It is now only on the high side.

Yes. 87 goes to the starter solenoid.
Before connecting it, attach a multimeter from 87 (red probe) to gnd (blk probe) and see if it gets 12 V when you press "start". Of course, must be in P or N and must have ignition switch on.

Theory. When you get 12 V across the relay's coil (85 to 86), you should hear it click and get 12 V thru (from 30 to 87).

I tried like you stated above and I get nothing to the 87 terminal on the "starter relay"
when I flip the starter switch. It was in park at the time.
The 86 wire that I put to one side of the has power all of the time when toggle the ignition switch on.
When I do that 85 then has power which goes to the center pin on the NSS but again, no power to 87.

Is there a way to use the SR14 starter relay in line with the 2 relays I have or to replace the starter relay I have?

I talked to painless and they told me to connect the 87 wire to the "I" terminal on the stock relay and connect the "G" to the center pin of the NSS.
I then connected the "SOL" terminal on the factory relay to the starter solenoid.

Still nothing. No power to the starter solenoid.
Thanks for your help. I will get this if it kills me.